6 Lessons from Your Big Sister Becks

It’s around my birthday and I guess this is when I get a little sentimental. I wouldn’t say it’s the “birthday blues” because I have changed my perspective on them. Birthdays used to come with a lot of nostalgia, but as I have gotten older and stopped the singing/candle ritual (IYKYK), I don’t put a focus in “aging” but I opt to be grateful to live another “year,” even it’s just another day older.

Thinking about previous birthdays, it reminds me of how much I love to write and that I really need to do it more often. This year, I decided to draft up some lessons.

When I think of who I am speaking to on social media, it’s often a younger version of me. It’s ambitious ladies who are chasing their dreams, while enjoying each day. I see myself as their “big sister” on Instagram, so that’s who these lessons are from – your big sister Becks.

I wrote six lessons. I’m not sure why that’s the magic number, maybe more will come to me, but for now we have six. Six lessons from your blogger big sister Becks (me). Let’s get into it.

Lesson 1: The older you get the less you care what everyone else is doing, what anyone thinks of you, or what is trendy. I always “moved in my own way,” and didn’t really concern myself with the opinions of others. As you get older, you will understand how it truly becomes less and less relevant in your life. You don’t care what reality tv show is trending and your not concerned with the latest Target haul. You remember that it’s important to make the most of each day and spend time with the people around you. You don’t care to scroll as much, you take time off social media, and you talk to people in real life. It’s both refreshing and freeing.

Lesson 2: Sleep, food, stress-levels, and rest should be prioritized. Remember the basics and question the experts. If you are not aligned, your body will try to tell you. Listen to it. PS. If you go back to your natural hair color and consume a lot of meat, your hair will grow. We all seem to have the phase in our twenties, but not everyone is meant to have blonde hair.

Lesson 3: Dress presentable, always. You’ll feel better and perform better. It’s always better to be overdressed than underdressed. Shop your own closet and stay true to your style- not what’s trending. A lot of people dress the same now, wear what you like and own your personal style, and you’ll stand out.

Lesson 4: Your friends should be there for you during tough times, but also cheer for you during the good times. Friendship is a two way street. Pour into friendships that are also being poured into – you should not be the only one watering the friendship flower.

Lesson 5: There comes a time when you will question everything you have been told. Like a butterfly, you’ll need to spend time in your cocoon unlearning and growing. It’s certainly not an easy growth journey and can feel quite isolating… but when you do pull through, you’ll be grateful that you did. You’ll see the world entirely differently.

Lesson 6: Trust the timing of your life and be decisive. You can always pivot, find a new job, try something new, or move. If you don’t close some doors, you won’t be able to open others. The biggest changes pave the way for the future and can set you up for new opportunities. 

I suppose I will get off my preachy high horse now, and let you choose which lessons you want to take or leave. We are all just trying to navigate this life and read less AI slop on the internet, so hopefully there’s a takeaway or two in here for you. Written by your big sister Becks.