Being in your twenties means different things for different people. For some, it means a time to let loose-the thought of “settling down” is very distant. For others, it means to starting a career or building a business. There are also people who use this time to commit to a relationship and start a family. There is no right or wrong way to spend your twenties, but I believe twenty-somethings have one thing in common- we are all just figuring it out!
Let’s be honest here, no one really knows for certain what the future holds. It is important to live in and value the present, but it is also important to set goals that shape the future. I am a believer in manifestation and believing in your goals and dreams. I have faith in the universe, I smile at sidewalk pennies, and I value time spent doing what I enjoy. While all this is great, I also feel lost at times.
No one really prepares you for your twenties- they seem to be glorified as the years of youth without stress…but I find that is not necessarily the case. I see a lot of stressed twenty somethings struggling to figure life out. These are the years of finding out who you are, where you want to go, what you want to do, who you want to be.
You see, there is no “set” timeline to this life. We really can do what we want. These opportunities and options can be overwhelming. We may want to say “yes” more than we should, and we fear making the wrong decision or missing out. There is value in trusting your gut and trusting that it will all work out in the end.
I often wonder what being in your twenties would be like if there was no social media. Social media tends to be a highlight reel, where people showcase successes and hide the failures. Social media can trigger a comparison game to see who went to the most prestigious school, who is the most financially successful, who tried something new, who is getting married, who is traveling the world, and who has a lot of friends. It is so important to stay in your own lane. This is a friendly reminder to not compare yourself to others, to stay true to you, and to not worry about what other people think.
If you relate to anything from this blog post, I recommend reading:
“THE DEFINING DECADE: WHY YOUR TWENTIES MATTER AND HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF THEM NOW” by Meg Jay PhD
When I first graduated college, I picked up this book and highlighted my way through it. Now here I am 25, rereading the pages and my notes. This book showcases how to make the most of this decade in various areas of our lives from work to social networks to relationships and more.
Meg Jay Phd shares life stories of her twenty-something clients, and I think there are a lot of relatable points.
I recommend this read to twenty somethings, especially as we all try to figure it out!
Please read blog post and book at your own risk.