I realize that my audience is not that large, but it is real and is genuine. I write because I love to write and to me, it does not feel like “work.” I write because I have to write…I feel it in my bones that I need to write. Writing makes me happy, and if I can provide some tips to make you just a little bit happier today- then, heck I will write it all!
- Stop comparing yourself to others and trust your timeline. I have said it before and I will say it again- try not to compare yourself to others. This includes your friends, peers, family, and relatives of the past. I know this is easier said than done, but please try for me. Also, trust your timing in life- trust where you are. Whether you realize it or not, you are growing and experiencing. Everyone has a different timeline-we all grow up at different rates. Some of us, like myself, do not really want to grow up at all. (I can thank Disney for that!) Your timing is yours and your life is yours. You really can do whatever you want. If you are unhappy with your timeline, you have the ability to change it. I genuinely believe that good things happen when you believe they will.
- Remove toxic social media/unfollow/close out. This was a very important move for myself and my happiness. I went through a major Facebook friend removal spree in college. I was in a tough place in my life, and I did not need everyone seeing what I was or was not doing. If you are still my Facebook friends, consider yourself lucky (just kiddin’.) but seriously… if you are experiencing FOMO or are unhappy when you log onto social media… UNFOLLOW the accounts that are triggering these emotions. You have the choice to follow and unfollow. Choose wisely. We spend a lot of time online and logged into apps; you do not have to follow everyone and you definitely do not have to follow accounts that are not making you feel okay. On a side note, I also received hate messages via DM and on mean comments on my posts-someone was attacking my content, the fact that I dyed my hair blonde, and my clothing choices. I blocked these accounts and eventually the messages stopped. Initially, these messages really hurt. Later, I realized that this bully was hiding behind a screen and had to be very jealous/insecure to write these things. Please tell someone if you are being bullied online.
- Take time to do what makes you happy. Set aside time, I recommend once a day, to do what you like! This can be as simple as a trip to the gym or writing in a journal, or catching up with your friends or a parent. I have noticed that people do not really text or call anymore to check in and just say hi- there always has to be a reason. Well, maybe we should change that and reach out just cause… that might make someone else happy too! Try not to worry about what people think- again this is easier said than done. You are you and you are unique! That is definitely something to celebrate. People can be scared or intimidated of different, but do not let that change what makes you unique. Enjoy your passions and hobbies, do not worry about being “cool” or fitting a mold.
More important than all these tips… please try to SEE THE GOOD. You are worth it, life is worth it, and this big beautiful world is worth it. Explore it and love it! You’re here for a reason.
I hope these three tips will help you become happier today. Not everyday may be wonderful but there is good in every day. As I get older, I realize more and more that happiness is not a place or a destination, but rather a feeling that we can control. We determine our own happiness, and these are just some tips that can help us along the way.
**I am not a professional, so please use these tips at your own discretion. I am not responsible for any repercussions after reading this post. **